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I co-founded a company a couple years ago, and am in charge of the development aspects of the company. I am an executive (CTO) and am on the board of directors. I also own 20% of the company (the president owns the other 80%).

There are no full time employees who can develop, and we outsource work to a friend of mine in another country when things get busy. I am also the only one who can communicate with that friend due to a language barrier. So if I leave, the whole development side of things would stop.

The guy I cofounded the company with and I don't really see eye to eye on how a company should be run, and, seeing as he is the president of the company, he tends to get his way more often than not. I am often yelled at in front of everyone else, or in a public online channel that everyone in the company can see, for several hours at a time (almost at a weekly basis). I can't really see myself coming to like working at this company as a possibility anymore, so I would like to explore other options.

However, if I quit, the whole company would likely go under, and I don't really want to be the cause of that either. There may be a chance that we could sell off our development contracts to other companies, and then the company could turn exclusively into a design company (as that is what the other employees do), but the design contracts just started to enter a rough patch as of last month.

I've tried changing focus from client work to creating our own service, but my ideas were all shut down due to them being unsure with the domain, or saying that they don't have a very good image of what the project would be based on (at the time, cryptocurrency), so it didn't get anywhere. Since then, there has been a similar project released by another company.

How could I either make this company a place I actually enjoy belonging to, or move onto another place without essentially screwing over the members (including the president) who would remain behind?

It doesn't sound like this situation is salvageable, so I think leaving the company is your best option. However, it's clear that you still care about the future of the company and would prefer not to cause harm when you leave, so simply dropping a two weeks notice and disappearing isn't the best option.

This is one of the very few resignation situations where I would suggest having an open and honest conversation with your co-founder. The risk of telling the boss you are planning to leave the company is always that you will be fired before you can quit, but if you are really as critical to the company as you say you are, then that shouldn't happen here. I would try starting a closed-door conversation like this:

I've been thinking a lot about our company and where we are headed. You know that we often don't see eye-to-eye and have different visions for what we want the company to achieve. I think it's time for me to step back from the company leadership. I am not feeling fulfilled in this role, and you need someone on your team who shares your vision for the company. In order for the company to grow and succeed, which we both want it to, you need someone in leadership who is as passionate about your approach as you are, and that's not me. I'd like to work up a plan to effectively transition me out of the CTO position without negatively impacting the company.

The important points are to emphasize why it is beneficial to the company (and your co-founder) that you leave. It is important not to emphasize how he has treated you poorly. Hopefully he sees your reasoning and you can discuss how to find your replacement. He may change face all of a sudden and try to convince you to stay. If you are serious about leaving the company (and I would really only have this conversation if you are), then you need to be assertive and not back down on the fact that you will be leaving the company.

The biggest question with this approach is when to have the conversation. Usually you don't tell someone you are leaving until you already have another job lined up, but in this instance an effective transition will need a little more time than your standard notice period. One approach is to wait until you have a new job that is willing to give you a long notice period. Another approach is to have the conversation after you've started the job search and feel comfortable you will find a job, but you haven't gotten a formal offer yet. You'll notice I worded the conversation in a way that only mentioned leaving the CTO position, and not the company. This gives you a little opportunity to shift to a more junior role while you continue to look for a job, but that really is only there as a weak safety net that I wouldn't rely on too heavily. The end goal is to leave the company, but you don't have to explicitly say that.

Find a new job, submit your two weeks notice and leave. This doesn't sound like a valuable company so your shares are almost certainly worthless. You're probably shielded by the corporate veil if this is a company in the US, but if you've signed any contracts besides an employment agreement, you might want to contact an attorney (especially if there's a non-compete agreement in effect).

This sounds like a bridge that was burned by your abusive partner, not you. Walk away from the ashes.

This sounds bad.

I wouldn't want to work with a person who betrayed my trust in such a way, let alone be their business partner.
In fact, it seems you're getting bullied either unintentionally or intentionally to drive you out or to deflect blame onto you.

You should contact your lawyer about your options and their ramifications for yourself as well as the company.

Should you decide to leave, it is up to the remaining management to take care of the company and you have nothing to do with a potential demise if they turn out to be incompetent.

When leaving any employment, focus on where your career is going, not where it has been. A certain amount of ruthlessness is required in business, your cofounder has it, you appear lacking which is why you're getting walked all over.

In any case it's not your problem if it all falls to bits, the smart thing to do would be to prepare for that eventuality, start your own business and take over the clients.

I suppose it must be really hard to leave a project you've co-founded. Up to some point, you probably feel it as your baby.

If that's your case and you care about the company, keep reading. Else - search for a new job and forget about that death-trap.

Assuming you care about the company, you should focus on getting your co-founder back on track. People yelling at people is unacceptable, and you should convey that message to him.

Let aside a boss yelling at people - he should lead by example to grow a healthy environment instead of.. well, doing the exact opposite.

I don't really know how to convince him of changing his mind/way, but I do know that's the issue you have to solve to make the company the environment in which you (or everyone else, for that matter) would like to work.

It probably deserves its own question & answers in the site - it may even already exist -, but the first step is to make him notice the issues he's causing. How do his actions & attitude affect you? What issues does it cause? How about the rest of the employees?

Depending on his nature, the most effective way of conveying the message would probably (and sadly) be to show him how he's hurting the business. Are people unhappy and therefore affecting their jobs outcomes? Is quality/quantity of work suffering? If he is a more open person (which, by your description, doesn't feel like), you could take a more human approach - people is investing part of their lives in a company that doesn't respect them that much.

Once you get him to understand there's an issue - then you start trying to fix it. External advisors, more questions here, whatever. But you need him to want to make a change, or any of you two should leave.

Good luck with that!

You should talk to a lawyer.

Even if you are shielded from personal liability by the corporation things can still go bad.

If you don't care about the 20% then tell him want to forfeit your shares and be removed from the board of directors.

As far as what happens to the company that is not your problem. You have been treated poorly.

If he asks you to stay around when you resign then you could negotiate terms but what he has done is very disrespectful. I doubt he will change.