How to navigate potentially being sabotaged by manager? [on hold]
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My manager is deliberately holding back on an action that impacts my career growth (I cannot mention specifics without giving away personal info). I realize he is not a good person or trustworthy, and I am making progress on leaving the company.
I know his holding back is not in error or forgetfulness as I have sent him (gently spaced) reminders and even mentioned to him more than once during 1-1 conversations to please do the requested action. That's why I know that since he hasn't done this by now it is because he quite malicious and deliberately sabotaging me.
I am planning to leave. However, while I am here, how do I navigate being around a potentially hate-filled and spiteful person?
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asked Dec 3 at 16:53
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My manager is deliberately holding back on an action that impacts my career growth (I cannot mention specifics without giving away personal info). I realize he is not a good person or trustworthy, and I am making progress on leaving the company.
I know his holding back is not in error or forgetfulness as I have sent him (gently spaced) reminders and even mentioned to him more than once during 1-1 conversations to please do the requested action. That's why I know that since he hasn't done this by now it is because he quite malicious and deliberately sabotaging me.
I am planning to leave. However, while I am here, how do I navigate being around a potentially hate-filled and spiteful person?
manager
asked Dec 3 at 16:53
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without knowing what your boss is doing, its hard to advise
– SaggingRufus
Dec 3 at 16:54
Sorry I can't mention it, too identifying :(
– user323232434
Dec 3 at 17:00
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then we wont be able to help you. We don't need specific, just something like "I used my boss as a reference check and they wont pick up the phone"
– SaggingRufus
Dec 3 at 17:00
It's not a reference check, but a communication with an external party. I know I have legal recourse in reference checks, but I am not sure about this one.
– user323232434
Dec 3 at 17:02
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It is really hard to give advise in a case as vague as this one. Additionally, while it is possible that your manager is motivated by malice, it is possible that you misunderstand things, in which case the correct behavior changes - and we won't be able to help figure that out without more info. Even if they are out to get you, it's pretty much guaranteed that they have some reason, and what that reason is is going to have a big impact on best strategy - again, something we won't be able to tell you without more data.
– Ben Barden
Dec 3 at 17:02
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My manager is deliberately holding back on an action that impacts my career growth (I cannot mention specifics without giving away personal info). I realize he is not a good person or trustworthy, and I am making progress on leaving the company.
I know his holding back is not in error or forgetfulness as I have sent him (gently spaced) reminders and even mentioned to him more than once during 1-1 conversations to please do the requested action. That's why I know that since he hasn't done this by now it is because he quite malicious and deliberately sabotaging me.
I am planning to leave. However, while I am here, how do I navigate being around a potentially hate-filled and spiteful person?
manager
asked Dec 3 at 16:53
user323232434
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My manager is deliberately holding back on an action that impacts my career growth (I cannot mention specifics without giving away personal info). I realize he is not a good person or trustworthy, and I am making progress on leaving the company.
I know his holding back is not in error or forgetfulness as I have sent him (gently spaced) reminders and even mentioned to him more than once during 1-1 conversations to please do the requested action. That's why I know that since he hasn't done this by now it is because he quite malicious and deliberately sabotaging me.
I am planning to leave. However, while I am here, how do I navigate being around a potentially hate-filled and spiteful person?
manager
manager
asked Dec 3 at 16:53
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asked Dec 3 at 16:53
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put on hold as unclear what you're asking by IDrinkandIKnowThings, gnat, solarflare, NotMe, Michael Grubey 21 hours ago
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put on hold as unclear what you're asking by IDrinkandIKnowThings, gnat, solarflare, NotMe, Michael Grubey 21 hours ago
Please clarify your specific problem or add additional details to highlight exactly what you need. As it's currently written, it’s hard to tell exactly what you're asking. See the How to Ask page for help clarifying this question. If this question can be reworded to fit the rules in the help center, please edit the question.
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without knowing what your boss is doing, its hard to advise
– SaggingRufus
Dec 3 at 16:54
Sorry I can't mention it, too identifying :(
– user323232434
Dec 3 at 17:00
1
then we wont be able to help you. We don't need specific, just something like "I used my boss as a reference check and they wont pick up the phone"
– SaggingRufus
Dec 3 at 17:00
It's not a reference check, but a communication with an external party. I know I have legal recourse in reference checks, but I am not sure about this one.
– user323232434
Dec 3 at 17:02
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It is really hard to give advise in a case as vague as this one. Additionally, while it is possible that your manager is motivated by malice, it is possible that you misunderstand things, in which case the correct behavior changes - and we won't be able to help figure that out without more info. Even if they are out to get you, it's pretty much guaranteed that they have some reason, and what that reason is is going to have a big impact on best strategy - again, something we won't be able to tell you without more data.
– Ben Barden
Dec 3 at 17:02
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without knowing what your boss is doing, its hard to advise
– SaggingRufus
Dec 3 at 16:54
Sorry I can't mention it, too identifying :(
– user323232434
Dec 3 at 17:00
1
then we wont be able to help you. We don't need specific, just something like "I used my boss as a reference check and they wont pick up the phone"
– SaggingRufus
Dec 3 at 17:00
It's not a reference check, but a communication with an external party. I know I have legal recourse in reference checks, but I am not sure about this one.
– user323232434
Dec 3 at 17:02
3
It is really hard to give advise in a case as vague as this one. Additionally, while it is possible that your manager is motivated by malice, it is possible that you misunderstand things, in which case the correct behavior changes - and we won't be able to help figure that out without more info. Even if they are out to get you, it's pretty much guaranteed that they have some reason, and what that reason is is going to have a big impact on best strategy - again, something we won't be able to tell you without more data.
– Ben Barden
Dec 3 at 17:02
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without knowing what your boss is doing, its hard to advise
– SaggingRufus
Dec 3 at 16:54
without knowing what your boss is doing, its hard to advise
– SaggingRufus
Dec 3 at 16:54
Sorry I can't mention it, too identifying :(
– user323232434
Dec 3 at 17:00
Sorry I can't mention it, too identifying :(
– user323232434
Dec 3 at 17:00
1
1
then we wont be able to help you. We don't need specific, just something like "I used my boss as a reference check and they wont pick up the phone"
– SaggingRufus
Dec 3 at 17:00
then we wont be able to help you. We don't need specific, just something like "I used my boss as a reference check and they wont pick up the phone"
– SaggingRufus
Dec 3 at 17:00
It's not a reference check, but a communication with an external party. I know I have legal recourse in reference checks, but I am not sure about this one.
– user323232434
Dec 3 at 17:02
It's not a reference check, but a communication with an external party. I know I have legal recourse in reference checks, but I am not sure about this one.
– user323232434
Dec 3 at 17:02
3
3
It is really hard to give advise in a case as vague as this one. Additionally, while it is possible that your manager is motivated by malice, it is possible that you misunderstand things, in which case the correct behavior changes - and we won't be able to help figure that out without more info. Even if they are out to get you, it's pretty much guaranteed that they have some reason, and what that reason is is going to have a big impact on best strategy - again, something we won't be able to tell you without more data.
– Ben Barden
Dec 3 at 17:02
It is really hard to give advise in a case as vague as this one. Additionally, while it is possible that your manager is motivated by malice, it is possible that you misunderstand things, in which case the correct behavior changes - and we won't be able to help figure that out without more info. Even if they are out to get you, it's pretty much guaranteed that they have some reason, and what that reason is is going to have a big impact on best strategy - again, something we won't be able to tell you without more data.
– Ben Barden
Dec 3 at 17:02
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Since you are already planning on leaving, just be polite and do your work as you normally would. Act like a professional. Once you have accepted a new job, hand in your resignation and all of these issues will be history.
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Since you are already planning on leaving, just be polite and do your work as you normally would. Act like a professional. Once you have accepted a new job, hand in your resignation and all of these issues will be history.
answered Dec 3 at 17:13
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Since you are already planning on leaving, just be polite and do your work as you normally would. Act like a professional. Once you have accepted a new job, hand in your resignation and all of these issues will be history.
answered Dec 3 at 17:13
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up vote
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up vote
10
down vote
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Since you are already planning on leaving, just be polite and do your work as you normally would. Act like a professional. Once you have accepted a new job, hand in your resignation and all of these issues will be history.
answered Dec 3 at 17:13
sf02
2,0621211
Since you are already planning on leaving, just be polite and do your work as you normally would. Act like a professional. Once you have accepted a new job, hand in your resignation and all of these issues will be history.
answered Dec 3 at 17:13
sf02
2,0621211
answered Dec 3 at 17:13
sf02
2,0621211
answered Dec 3 at 17:13
sf02
2,0621211
answered Dec 3 at 17:13
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4
without knowing what your boss is doing, its hard to advise
– SaggingRufus
Dec 3 at 16:54
Sorry I can't mention it, too identifying :(
– user323232434
Dec 3 at 17:00
1
then we wont be able to help you. We don't need specific, just something like "I used my boss as a reference check and they wont pick up the phone"
– SaggingRufus
Dec 3 at 17:00
It's not a reference check, but a communication with an external party. I know I have legal recourse in reference checks, but I am not sure about this one.
– user323232434
Dec 3 at 17:02
3
It is really hard to give advise in a case as vague as this one. Additionally, while it is possible that your manager is motivated by malice, it is possible that you misunderstand things, in which case the correct behavior changes - and we won't be able to help figure that out without more info. Even if they are out to get you, it's pretty much guaranteed that they have some reason, and what that reason is is going to have a big impact on best strategy - again, something we won't be able to tell you without more data.
– Ben Barden
Dec 3 at 17:02